When we’re not okay
At the beginning of the year, I listened to two audiobooks that now feel like prepared reading for a pandemic.
The one was Man’s Search for Meaning by Viktor E. Frankle and the other was The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle. While the first highlights how the only thing we really have control over is our attitude and perception, the latter emphasises the importance of being in the present moment.
There’s a lot that sucks right now. We’re facing individual and collective struggles that (dare I say it) are unprecedented. I’m struggling and my guess is that you might be struggling too (if not, please tell me your secrets).
What do I want to feel? My initial response is that I want to feel neutral. Zen. Calm as Hindu cows. Then I hear Susan David’s voice saying: “You have dead people goals.”
Experiencing difficult emotions is a non-negotiable part of life. The well we get our joy from was dug out by our sorrows. The depths are one and the same. We can’t hide from them.
“Only dead people never get unwanted or inconvenienced by their feelings.”Susan David
What we don’t have to do is to pretend that we’re fine. We’re not fine. That’s okay. Tell someone. Feel it and recognise it. Cry about it. It’s okay to not be okay. You are most certainly not alone. We’re on this ocean with you.
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